​​​​I Lost My Confidence: How Do I Get It Back?

If you’ve lost confidence in yourself, don’t worry. As you’ll soon see, you can easily learn how to get your confidence back.

But before you start doing that, it’s helpful to understand why you lost self confidence in the first place, so that it doesn’t happen again.

Why did I lose confidence in myself?

If you’ve lost self confidence, it’s because you don’t think as positively about yourself and your capabilities as you once did.

More specifically, if you lost confidence in yourself, 3 things happened:

You started doubting yourself and your capabilities: you began questioning whether you're 'really' someone of positive value and whether you're 'really' capable of achieving things you want to achieve

To understand this, let’s say that you’re an extremely self confident person who doesn’t struggle with self doubt in any way.

Indeed, you know without a doubt that you are a great, important, valuable person, just as you know without a doubt that you can achieve anything you want to achieve.

But then, one day, your self confidence takes a blow when you begin doubting your positive value and your capablities for the very first time.

For example, maybe you lose your job, and then the love of your life breaks up with you soon after.

You want to know why these things happened, and this is when you start doubting your self worth and your capablitiies for the first time, by thinking thoughts like:

  • Maybe I’m not as great, or as important, or as valuable as I thought I was
  • Maybe I’m not capable of achieving things I want to achieve
  • Maybe I’m weaker than I thought
  • Maybe I don’t have as much to offer the world as I thought
  • And so on…

This type of self doubt and negative questioning is the first step in an erosion of self confidence.

 

This self doubting lead to a negative shift in thought: you began to think less positively (and perhaps even negatively) about yourself and your capabilities

Continuing with our example, let’s say you begin doubting yourself and your self worth after your lose your job and the love of your life breaks up with you.

When you start doubting yourself like this, a loss in self confidence predictably follows. After all, from ‘Maybe I’m not as valuable as I thought I was’ it’s not not much of a leap to start thinking ‘I’m not that valuable’.

And when you start thinking that type of a thought, that’s when you officially lose confidence in yourself.

So think of it this way: the moment you began doubting yourself and your capabilities, your confidence begins to waver.

Then, the moment you begin to actually think less positively (or negatively) about yourself and your capabilities is the moment that you actually lose confidence in yourself.

In this way, self doubt is a slippery slope that naturally leads to a loss of self confidence.

 

This negative shift in thought *inside* your mind created the loss of self confidence, not some external event *outside* your mind (like losing your job or breaking up with someone)

It’s common to conclude that losing your job and being dumped by your lover are things that cause you to lose confidence in yourself.

But these things do not cause you to lose self confidence at all. Instead, it is a negative change in the way you think that causes a loss of confidence.

To understand this, imagine  that you lose your job and the love of your life breaks up with you…

But, rather than doubting yourself or your capabilities in any way, you maintain the rock solid conviction that you are a great, important, valuable person no matter what happened, and you also know without a doubt that you will emerge from this situation stronger than ever.

With this approach, you continue to feel good about yourself and your capabilities, and you maintain your self confidence, despite these recent events.

The lesson: external events outside your mind do not cause a loss of confidence. Rather, it is a negative shift in thought that causes the loss of self confidence.

Without this negative shift in thought, you can easily stay self confident no matter what.

Click on any of these factors to learn more about what makes you lose confidence in yourself.

How to get confidence back & how to avoid losing confidence again

The overall lesson is that thinking less positively about yourself and your capabilities creates a loss of self confidence. So, in order to gain self confidence, rather than continue losing it, just do the opposite.

Indeed, this is the entire secret to regaining your self confidence: thinking more positively about yourself and your capabilities.

Or, as people commonly put it: believe in yourself more. (Which is something you’ll learn more about very soon.)

How do I stay confident once I regain my self confidence?

Since you begin losing self confidence the moment you start doubting yourself and your capabilities, once you feel confident again, don’t doubt yourself or your capabilities any more.

This is how to stop losing self confidence in the future.

If you currently struggle with self doubt, it’s no big deal. You’ll learn how to overcome and eliminate self doubt soon enough, so that you don’t struggle with it anymore.

For now, however, the main point is this: being free of self doubt is the key to not losing confidence in yourself again.

Teach me how to get my confidence back fast

You don’t have to exercise, lose weight, make a lot of money, wear fancy clothes, or look like a super model to feel more self confident. After all, having more confidence in yourself is simply a matter of thinking more positively about yourself and your capabilities.

Since you can easily improve your thinking and think more positively in five minutes or less, this means you can definitely become more self confident than you are right now in less than five minutes.

All it takes is knowing how to believe in yourself more, and then doing so. Its that simple.

Next: How To Believe In Yourself To Create Self Confidence →

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Self Confidence Course >> Section 1, Lesson 4/4

Lesson summary:

Why do we lose self confidence? If you’ve lost confidence in yourself, learn 3 reasons why it happened, & learn how to gain confidence back quickly and easily.

Section 1 Lessons:

  1. What confidence is & two benefits of being confident
  2. What is self confidence?
  3. Why is self confidence important?
  4. I lost my confidence: how do I get it back?

Next Section In The Self Confidence Course:

Section 2

About the author

Hi, I'm Dave Fonvielle, the founder of Always Greater. On this website I teach you step by step how to be happier and more successful achieving your goals, whether it's completing a small personal to do task, like doing the dishes, or a large business goal, like launching a new product. Get my free 3 Tiny Habits for Being Happier & More Successful training for all of this right here.