​​​​Are You Uncomfortable With Happiness?

Impact

• You feel helpless to become happier without putting pressure on yourself (forcing yourself) to feel happier
• This motivates you to force yourself to feel happy, which is counter-productive, since these feelings of force and pressure are not enjoyable and naturally make you unhappy
• The result is that you naturally make yourself less happy (and more miserable) by trying to force yourself to be happy

Sensibility

• If you want to enjoy feeling happy, it makes no sense for you to try to force yourself to be happy, since this guarantees that that you will NOT become happy!
• Indeed, you can’t force happiness, since it is simply an enjoyable feeling that you naturally allow to happen (allow, not force: see more about how to feel happy by allowing it to happen naturally)
• So it makes no sense to believe that you can’t become happy without forcing yourself to be happy (instead, it makes way more sense to believe that you can become happy by not trying to force it at all)

* If you find yourself asking yourself things like, how do I force myself to be happy, stop thinking along those lines! Appreciate that this is a completely counter-productive thing to do.

Impact

• You feel helpless to accept or handle being happy in a fast, easy, immediate way, since you believe you “can’t” do it
• As a result, you make no effort to accept, handle, or enjoy happy feelings, which guarantees that you will remain feeling uncomfortable with them for a long time (assuming you ever do feel comfortable with happiness at some point)
• The overall result is less enjoyment, less confidence in yourself and your abilities, and less success in becoming happier and staying happy

Sensibility

• Happiness is a wonderful, enjoyable, positive thing, so clearly you can accept and handle it (in no way does it ever make sense to believe that you “can’t”!)
• Indeed, you can accept and handle it in a very fast, easy, immediate way by simply choosing to accept it as something that is ok and great (and why wouldn’t you accept this?)
• Where is it written that you “have” to take a long time struggling with depression, sadness, or unhappiness before you can accept being happy? Not only do you not have do this, but it also makes no sense to do this, when you can easily to steps to enjoy greater happiness without any wait.

Impact

• You are naturally motivated to feel sad, depressed, or unhappy, due to believing that this is a good or right thing to do
• And you are naturally motivated to not be happy or stay happy, due to believing that this is bad or wrong for you to do (and if, by some miracle, you do feel happy for whatever reason, it will feel weird, wrong, and uncomfortable to you, and you will predictably slip back into an unhappy state that feels “right”)
• The overall result is way less success with becoming happier and staying happy consistently; indeed, you will predictably be sad, miserable, depressed, and unhappy on a regular basis, due to finding this the good or right way to be

Sensibility

• Where on earth is the ‘goodness’ or the ‘rightness’ in being sad, depressed, or unhappy?
• And where on earth is the ‘badness’ or ‘wrongness’ in being happy and staying happy consistently?
• When you consider all the negative effects of unhappiness, and all the wonderful benefits of happiness, it makes absolutely no sense at all to believe these things!

Impact

• You naturally feel free to be happy, rather than feeling that happiness is something you have to somehow ‘force’ on yourself or put pressure on yourself ot achieve
• As a result, you naturally feel better already, and are more receptive to happiness and allowing it to happen naturally
• And since happiness is something you clearly want and are trying to achieve, and since you are giving yourself the enjoyable freedom to experience happiness if and when it happens… You naturally achieve being happier faster and easier.

Sensibility

• It makes complete sense to give yourself the freedom to be happy (to enjoy something positive freely), rather than to try to force happiness on yourself (as if it’s something you don’t want!)
• So not only do you have much greater clarity of mind by treating happiness as somethng that you want, and that you’re allowing yourself to enjoy if and when it comes along…
• But this easy-going, relaxed, comfortable attitude naturally makes it easier for you to be happy, which is exactly what you want in the first place; so this makes complete sense, every way you look at it!

Impact

• You feel empowered to accept and handle being happy in a fast, easy, immediate way, since you believe you can do it
• As a result, you are more motivated to accept, handle, and enjoy happy feelings, which means you feel more comfortable with happy feelings a lot faster and easier (even immediately!)
• The overall result is more enjoyment, more confidence in yourself and your abilities, and more success in becoming happier and staying happy

Sensibility

• Being happy is a wonderful, enjoyable, positive thing, so clearly you can accept and handle becoming happier and staying happy consistently
• Indeed, you can accept and handle happiness in a very fast, easy, immediate way by simply choosing to accept it as something that is ok and great (which makes complete sense to accept)
• There is no necessity — none! — in taking a long time struggling with depression, sadness, or unhappiness before you can accept being happy. So it makes complete sense to accept and enjoy being happy immediately, without any wait.

Impact

• You are naturally more motivated to feel happy and stay happy, due to believing that it is ok and great to do this (so you naturally have more success becoming happier and staying happy)
• You are naturally less motivated to feel sad, depressed, or unhappy, due to believing that it is less preferable than being happy (it’s not that it is ‘wrong’; simply that it’s something less preferable, and not anything you have any interest in deliberately trying to achieve)
• The overall result is way more success with becoming happier and staying happy consistently, as well as feeling completely comfortable with being happy

Sensibility

• When you consider all the benefits of being happy, it makes complete sense to believe that it’s ok and great for you to feel happy and stay happy consistently
• And when you consider all the negative effects of sadness, unhappiness, and depression, it makes complete sense to believe that these states are less preferable to enjoying greater happiness
• When you consider all this, it makes complete sense to accept the positive belief that becoming a happier person and staying happy is an ok, great, and wonderful thing to do, without any qualms or reservations about it at all!